What is Enough?

Searching for more based on what others are chasing is like letting a stranger pick our favorite color: it’s not likely that they will get it right.

Once upon a time, there was a woman who lived a decent life. She wasn’t struggling to make ends meet. She was loved by family and friends. She even went on vacations from time to time. Ostensibly, you might have thought she had enough. She might have thought so too.

But then one day, she saw her friend’s life on social media. Or heard about something “better” that someone else had. Or learned that she was the only one not doing something that everyone else was. 

And suddenly, she felt behind. The lives of everyone around her seemed happier, more exciting and more ideal. Their lives seemed more everything, and somehow she felt like she was lacking. Compared to the lives of others, was her life less? She couldn’t risk that, so she went on a quest for more. 

More money. 

More socially praised milestones.

More desirable possessions. 

Just more. 

This woman is many of us, and many of us have never stopped that quest. Why? Because the quest for “more” is never-ending. There will always be more, and there will always be others who have more. 

The real question is: What is the “more” we are really searching for?

More than likely, it is the type of “more” that can’t be compared to others. 

More empowered choices. 

More time spent doing things that bring us joy. 

More actions that align to our values. 

More of ourselves. 

When did we become “less” based on the “more” of others? When did our “more” become something we could determine by comparing to others? When we stopped listening to our own wisdom and started looking for what we wanted outside of ourselves. 

Searching for more based on what others are chasing is like letting a stranger pick our favorite color: it’s not likely that they will get it right. And how could they? They are not us. 

As if there is an objective answer, many of us ask: when is enough enough? Then, like it’s a math problem, we calculate and recalculate the answer according to everything around us, convinced that this study or that expert will help us find the perfect solution.

But perhaps the better question is: what is enough for us?

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